Frequently Asked Questions About Autism

What parents whant to know

The general public has a lot of questions about autism—from why ASD seems to be on the rise and what it’s like to live with autism to how to interact with a colleague with autism in the workplace. Pop culture often depicts autism as some kind of misunderstood genius disorder, which causes many people to have misconceptions, make assumptions, or just be fascinated and intrigued by ASD. The questions that parents of children with autism tend to have, however, are less about curiosity and far more personal.

Top 10 Questions About Autism
We get a lot of questions from the parents of our residential and outpatient students. There is so much that the healthcare industry still doesn’t understand about ASD, but we do our best to provide help and answers. Here are some of the most common questions we hear at the Springbrook Autism Program. If nothing else, reading through these questions should help you realize that you are not alone in this journey.

FAQ

1Did I Cause My Child’s Autism?
No. After getting an ASD diagnosis, this is the first question that many parents have—especially mothers. However, while there may be a genetic component to autism, there is no scientific evidence that anything that you did or did not do while your child was in utero or in his or her formative years caused the disorder. Please understand that feelings of anger, frustration, and guilt are perfectly normal after the initial diagnosis. In many ways, you are experiencing a profound loss, and you should expect to grieve. Our military and TRICARE consultant DJ Reyes has written a blog about his personal journey through the stages of grief after receiving his son’s diagnosis that may be helpful for you.
2How Can I Deal With This Diagnosis?
Start by being patient and kind with yourself, your spouse, and your child. You have just received life-altering news. Give yourself time to process all of the feelings that you are going to encounter, and don’t suppress your emotions. Many parents of children with autism find it helpful to talk to a counselor or therapist after they receive the initial diagnosis. Next, get to work and arm yourself with information. We are learning more and more about autism everyday, so it pays to stay as current as you are able. Be sure to reach out to the community to find out about the best programs and other resources in your area. You aren’t expected to face this challenge alone.
3How Do I Find Help For My Child?
Start by making sure that you and your child have an effective and reputable healthcare team on your side, which may include physicians, counselors, occupational therapists, and even certified Special Education teachers. Ask your primary care pediatrician for a referral to a developmental pediatrician who can consult with you about your next steps and recommend interventions and complementary therapies. Be sure that any health care professional you talk to focuses on your child’s holistic well-being: physical, mental, emotional and behavioral health as well as educational goals and life skills. Finally, get connected to an established network of parents who are facing the same questions and challenges as quickly as possible.
4Will My Child Ever Be Normal?
There’s a saying in the autism community that normal is just a setting on your washing machine. On one level, nobody has a normal child. All we really have is a range of what’s average when it comes to child development—but that’s not much comfort to a parent wondering about developmental delays, meltdowns, lack of language skills, and self-destructive or maladaptive behaviors. Of course, we get what parents are asking. They want to know about autism severity and the likelihood that their child will be able to interact with peers and establish relationships. And they want to hold out hope for a positive outcome. While every child with autism is different, with patience, treatment, and professional intervention, even children who are on the more severe end of the autism spectrum can learn and develop positive social skills and other life skills.
5What Will My Child’s Future Be Like?
The truth is, we don’t really know how life will unfold for your child—but there aren’t any parents who can know what life holds for their children. We do know that with early intervention, occupational therapy, and other adjustments, parents can increase their child’s success and fulfillment in life.
6What Can I Do To Prepare My Child For The Future?
Early intervention can do a lot toward fostering independence and daily living skills for your child. If your child is a teen, consider looking into some level of residential care or assisted living, even if it’s only a couple days a week, in order to make the transition to adulthood easier.
7Can My Child’s Autism Be Cured?
No. Autism is not a disease that can be cured—it is a disorder that causes the brain and nervous system to respond to the environment differently than that of a neurotypical person. However, with proactive treatments and therapies, you can help your child improve functioning and establish important daily living skills.
8Will My Child Ever Be Able To Talk?
There’s no way to know. Some children with autism develop language skills later in life and others never do. However, we do know that there are ways parents can still communicate with nonverbal children, and that there are fewer children with autism who are minimally verbal and nonverbal than there used to be, partly due to earlier detection, earlier intervention, and behaviorally-based treatments and therapies like Applied Behavior Analysis.
9How Do I Get My Child To Quit ___________________? (Fill in the blank with maladaptive or self-destructive behavior you would like to see stop.)
The common behaviors associated with ASD are often stubborn, complex, and difficult to treat, so you may never get your child to stop completely. It’s important to remember that many of these behaviors are merely symptoms of a larger underlying problem. For instance, meltdowns may be the result of a minimally verbal child being unable to express important needs. Treatments and therapies that are rooted in ABA can be effective at reducing challenging or destructive behaviors and replacing them with positive behaviors. At Springbrook, we have a highly-trained, full-time staff that addresses the holistic, individual needs of each child. Our team works with you and your child to identify the root causes of the challenging behaviors rather than treating the symptom only.
10Is There A Medication That Will Get My Child To Stop __________________?
Well, yes and no. As we’ve mentioned, behavior is a symptom of often complex, interconnected stressors and triggers, which means that there’s no magic bullet or direct correlation between a specific behavior and a medication. There are medications that can help reduce aggressive or self-destructive behaviors, that can help manage hyperactivity and impulsivity, or that can alleviate depression—but all medications work best when individualized and used in conjunction with ABA and other therapies. Our fellowship-trained psychiatrist has decades of experience helping children with autism manage their symptoms and develop better lifelong coping skills using both prescription medication and other therapies.
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